Have you seen this narcissist joker? A man that is not a man. A human being that uses others for ANYTHING he can get out of it. And when your done, or he’s done…..you mean nothing to him. When you STOP doing for him your purpose is complete in his eyes. At that point: he will make your life a living HELL. NONE of you matter to him. From Michelle Pillot, his new step daughter, to his own blood. If your NOT USEFUL to him you do not matter. As I read through the stages of what a victim goes through, I know leaving an abusive narcissist like Richard Zona Jr., every emotion I have felt, every evil act of his I have fought to survive, is TEXT BOOK. TO ALL HIS FLYING MONKEYS, named throughout my blog/diary, and to all those in John Paul DeJoria’s GANG, that have come after me so repulsively for him…… I make no apologies for my blog. My feelings are exactly where they should be. (TONY ROBBINS GO BLOW, NO SECOND ASSAULT, AND NO I WASN’T “A CRAZY PSYCHO BITCH”, that deserved abuse, theft, and FRAUD) I HAVE NO INTENTION OF LETTING THE ABUSE (sexual, financial, coercive, and emotional), FRAUD, THEFT, HARRASSMENT, and TERRORIZATION of me GO. Not until there is culpability.
STAGE ONE “victim”:
Facing horrific betrayal
Anger at X or Narcissist
Double victimized by friends and family that think you’re crazy
Angry at yourself for not knowing
Anger at yourself for the lost time – the love you gave it all to
Fear – what will I do now – financially, children
Fear – for the unknown future that has been changed for good
Loneliness(you may feel like you are a detective – be prepared for shock)
Learning that you are not alone and finding community is an important part of healing.
Study what made you a target/victim/supply
Get your questions answered
Learn how to get away from this abusive relationship.
STAGE TWO “SURVIVOR”:
Not ready to forgive
Struggling to rebuild life
Ready to be back to self
Trust issues still present
Anger is less, still triggered by events
Trigger based depression
Learned self-soothing techniques
Rebuilding financial strength
Hyper aware of the flags / you might see narcissists everywhere
WHAT YOU NEED TO LEARN:
Boundaries & Setting Limits
Work on taking back your life
Get back out there going out with friends and family (stop isolating)
Don’t stop learning
Study vulnerability – gratitude – happiness
STAGE THREE “SURTHRIVER”
Angry and resentful toward the one that did this to you?
Burdened with thoughts or emotions about unresolved events of the past?
That there’s no way you’ll ever want to or be able to forgive your abuser?
Like you’re being judged by others for not moving on and creating your life the way you most want it to be?
A yearning for freedom to express yourself fully and pursue your dreams passionately?
Release the bonds to the narcissist/abuser in your life so you can refocus your efforts back on yourself and your new life.
Self-confidence – Reclaim the old you and find even more personal power, self-love and self-confidence to propel you forward. Experience self-love so that you can turn chaos into calm, overwhelm into options and anxiety into joy.
Mindfulness – Learn to be fully present in the moment, where your mind is calm and anxiety disappears. You will learn powerful tools to instantly bring yourself back to this moment, so you can live your life with a new sense of adventure, curiosity and peace every day.
Build New Healthy Relationships – Learn to connect in new ways, so you attract better relationships and authentic friendships that support the new you. Get tools that effectively help you deal with triggers, stress, fear and anxiety. Gain new healthy and empowering relationship skills that help you make better choices in the future.
HAPPY MONDAY FOLKS! Thank you for reading. Good luck with Richard Zona Jr……(cynical)
SHHHH! I had a wonderful weekend…..:) LOVE